Crazy Read 2018 – #11 The Gift Of Imperfection
What I Loved
Another kick in the butt from Brene Brown!!!
Why oh why do I keep putting myself through these!!
I read this book in a sick phase years ago and didn’t remember a single word and so when I recently had clients reading it, I decided to start it again and see what they were learning.
Huh. This book has an amazing way of calling you on your crap. I loved how she defined “Dig Deep”
“Here’s what I found: Men and women who live Wholeheartedly do indeed DIG Deep. They just do it in a different way. When they’re exhausted and overwhelmed, they get Deliberate in their thoughts and behaviours through prayer, meditation or simply setting their intentions; Inspired to make new and different choices; Going. They take action.”
What a beautiful way to describe our lives and how we should live! I feel I have been doing this for awhile now but there was something missing and this book filled in the missing pieces.
One thing that I have struggled with in my life is SHAME. Yes the big ole ‘S’ word. From the life choices that I made (suicide attempt, eating disorder, etc) to the things that happened (sexual abuse, weight gain from the brain aneurysm, etc) I have lived a life filled with shame.
I have fought against it over the years and have overcome it for the most part but I have never seen a better description of it and how powerful it is.
I have always been told how resilient I am. YES. Yes I am. And here is why –
“Shame needs 3 things to grow out of control in our lives; secrecy, silence, and judgement. When something shaming happens and we keep it locked up, it festers and grows. It consumes us. We need to share our experience. Shame happens between people, and it heals between people. If we can find someone who has earned the right to hear our story, we need to tell it. Shame loses power when it is spoken. In this way, we need to cultivate our story to let go of shame, and we need to develop shame resilience in order to cultivate our story.”
THIS. All of these words!!!!! Yell your story from the mountain tops! Or just tell one safe person. But take that shame and let it go.
The power on the other side is beyond your imagination. Own your story or it will own you!!!!!
I will not dig into the rest of the book as to be honest? You just need to buy it and read it. This is only one small section that made a huge difference for me mentally this week.
READ THIS ONE!!!