You become the average of the 5 people you spend the most time with
We don’t want to, we don’t try to and yet we somehow become just like the people around us.
Have you ever walked through a mall and seen a group of friends and thought, “Man alive! They must go to the same stores and the same stylist” because they are just so much alike! Clothes and hair are surface items, but when you look at other areas of their lives, they have a lot in common – from age to boyfriends to opinions and habits.
Declutter your Social Life
Who are the five people you spend the most time with? Are the relationships taking up your time bringing you good vibes, or are they just bringing you down? Are you irritated by the people around you? By their behaviour? Feeling dragged down? Feeling used? Letting people waste your time? Struggling with emotions? Feeling like you are moving ahead of your friends or that you’re better than your friends?
What areas are they struggling with?
Do they pressure you? Do they influence you? Do they inspire you?
When you’re looking at their lives from this perspective, keep in mind that people show you their BEST side… Where are they at? Who is sucking all of your energy? You might already know without going through and rating their lives who the negativity-bringers are, but you don’t want to lose them or give up on them, right?
You don’t have to bail on them, just limit your time with them. Don’t jump in the hole with them – tie a rope to a tree, cheer them on as they pull themselves out. Help change their state. Give them permission to step up.
When you stop joining them in their pity party, you stop giving them validation to keep doing with they’re doing.
Doing something like this – taking an inventory of your five closest friends – is something so tiny and yet so huge at the same time. Take a few minutes today to do this.