Pursuing Results – Finding Self-Worth Beyond The Struggle

Sometimes life sucks. It sucks so freaking bad that you feel like you are drowning.

I have been there.

Oh trust me, I have been there and it is not a lot of fun.

When I was in the depths of my hell, I was so scared. Scared of being hurt again. Scared of allowing anyone in. Scared of who I had become.

And yet here’s the thing: That is the time that you need to step up and do something. ANYTHING!!!!

When you’re feeling like crap, like when anxiety takes over, or when you’re trying to cope with intensely painful emotions, or when you’re overwhelmed with negativity, the last thing you want to do is get up and do …anything…

We tend to hide: in the safety of the anonymous online world, in marathons of Netflix, in anything that means we can just be alone.

But at those times, that’s the worst thing you can do!

Below are two strategies I have used to help other and myself to move out of the mental hell that we sometimes find ourselves.

#1 – Reach out to People

Let go of those negative emotions and thoughts instead of letting them intensify by going against them – Reach out to people who will empower you to pull yourself out of your situation.

If you’re shy or anxious, this is going to sound like a terrible idea, but trust me, you can do it!

Pick up the phone, send an email, invite someone out for a walk or to come over to hang out for a while. Are there people who have been inviting you out but you keep declining? Try saying yes!

Choose to be around people who love you and want you to feel great!

When you’re with them, throw yourself into the activity. Focus on your similarities. Really FEEL it when you’re laughing and enjoying yourself and each other.

Recognize your differences too, and accept them. Let go of your judgment so you can truly connect. We’re all human, after all.

Making connections is so important for your mental health. When you feel like you belong to your community, when you can connect with others, you will feel more motivated, healthy, and happy!

We all have good days and bad days. You might want to hide when you feel low, but reaching out and spending time with friends, family, acquaintances, people at events, etc., you’ll find that everyone struggles. We all have difficult times.

You are not alone! Take comfort in knowing that.


#2 – Make A Happy List

Deliberately transform your train of thought by Sitting down with a pen and paper (not your phone!!) and make a list.

Make a list of random little things that make you happy: (here are some of my favourites to give you inspiration)

  • A hot bath
  • A cheese Danish from the Bon Ton Bakers
  • The smell of fresh cut grass
  • Someone tripping (yes I laugh at people sometimes)

Write out as many as you can.

And then?

Find someone to do your happy list with:

  • A friend
  • A teacher
  • A mentor
  • Even just yourself!

And when you are working through this list make eye contact with people and say, “hi”.

This has multiple effects. 1. You start to get pretty freaking happy as you work your way through this list. 2. You are not the only person who feels invisible.

Guess what!?!? EVERYONE ELSE DOES TOO!!!!

So, make someone else’s day more amazing.

This is my challenge to you. Step up.

You don’t have to change over night. You don’t even have to make a massive change!

You just have to do one-little-tiny action. One tiny action completed over and over again – ADDS UP. They add up to make a massive change.

So what if you did? What if you did one small thing to get yourself healthier? Or happier? Or on the right track to finding your tribe and community?

Because you are not alone. You are loved, loving and loveable. You are worthy of this life and one better than your wildest dreams.

And more than anything? YOU ARE ENOUGH

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