3 Ways You are Holding Yourself In Your Misery

You are most likely holding yourself in your misery. You may not even realize it! How do you recognize it? How are you participating in it? 

Recognizing it can often come just from stepping back and asking yourself “what is my part of this story” “how am I participating in this?” “how is this problem serving me in some way” Be honest with yourself. If we weren’t doing any of the above? We would have a way easier time making the changes we want to…

• Not stopping. Not stopping the bad habit, not admitting the bad habit in the first place, not being willing to feel discomfort. I LOVE gluten. Gluten made me feel like death. Like I was drinking Nyquil all day every day. Was it hard to stop eating it? Yes. I am not saying it was easy. But how amazing I felt without it? Made it worth while. What do you KNOW you need to stop doing. If you really wanted it? Would you make the change? Be honest with yourself…

• Choosing to say yes. You only have so much capacity. Do you know what that is? Do you know your level? Most people don’t. I challenge you to figure it out. You CAN say no. I promise you can!!! You don’t have to say yes. You also don’t have to make excuses for why you just can’t. I often say “I just can’t human today”. Take a moment and ask yourself what makes you have to say yes. What are you afraid of? EVERYONE and I mean everyone is overwhelmed and busy these days. The greatest gift you can give yourself and others often is to say no. How much energy do you have? Do you actually have the time to do what you have said yes to? If the thought of saying no scares you, what about it scares you? If it is because someone will be mad or not like you? Ask yourself, if that the type of person you want in your life? Did they like you in the first place?



• Refusal to change. If we want it that bad? We do it. Have you ever REALLY wanted the trip, the job, the pair of jeans and somehow figured it out? Me too. Yet when it comes time to make a change that could be amazing for us we struggle. I hate to say it, and yes I am saying this to me too, but in this situation? We know we can make the change if we want it bad enough but we are choosing not to. We have not put enough importance on it or prioritized it enough. A few weeks ago my trainer almost made an excuse for me as to why I was not doing all my workouts in a week and I laughed. “Nope! I said. I was just lazy and didn’t want to” I think I shocked her with my honesty.

You CAN change.

You CAN do the hard thing

You CAN heal from the hurt and misery.

I promise.

One step at a time.