10 Things I Learned During My Time In NYC
July 10, 2023
- I don’t like climbing a ladder to get into bed. Nope. I really don’t. I really don’t love climbing up and down to pee. Up and down to go to bed every night. Nope. Just don’t. It took me 15 days but I finally moved to the couch
- I have allowed myself to connect to people differently in my everyday life which is AMAZING but it has made me MISS PEOPLE so deeply. I have been LONELY on this trip!!! I realized how much I love my people and need to put more energy into connecting with them and maintaining relationships. I am not amazing at this. I know this but this trip is challenging me to make changes.
- It is NOISY here. Not just the actual crazy volume of the city but also the energy. The fear, the anger, the scared, all of it. It is a different feel than I have ever experienced at home in Canada. I had one NOT safe cab situation but figured it out quickly and was ok. I had one person say horrible things to me that made me go directly into a store and not leave until I had someone to walk me to a cab. But other than that? I didn’t feel unsafe. I did feel very sad a lot. I felt a LOT of people anger and energy and fears and that was hard.
- I drink a LOT of my daily fluids at the end of my day. Please see #1
- I could live in a tiny home. But I could NOT work in it as well. I have dreamt for years of living in an RV or in a tiny home but mentally? I need to have a different space for work and living and sleep and play and all the things. This has DEEPLY shifted my dreams and goals for the next 10 years. And I am glad I figured it out now and not later!!
- I change easily. I went from cooking with 60 spices and an amazing kitchen to NO spices and a 4 foot tiny space and it didn’t really phase me. It was very interesting to see how a different kitchen created whole different ways of eating and drinking. All of a sudden my cooking changed, my beverages changed (no more bougie coffee!!!!!) and new flavours. It was a nice break but I miss my old food.
- People. I miss hugging people!!!!! I am such a hugger and LOVE the connection that it gives. It took me 19 days to ask a complete stranger for a hug. Yes. Yes, I did. NO SHAME.
- Day 1-5? FUN Day 6-9 Lonely. Oh so lonely but still fun. Day 10-14 LIVING THE DREAM!!!!!!!! Day 15-18 I just wanna go home. Change my ticket!!!!! Why did I ever do this!!!!! Day 19 I think I want to move here…… Day 21 crying as I go home but excited to see my Husband!
- Every single person who actually talked to me and visited with me while I was in NYC was NOT from here. They were from all other states. People here? Were oddly snobby. I laughed out loud at some people's responses when I smiled and said hi or asked how they were doing. This poor friendly Canadian girl is just not fitting in.
- I can’t wait to go back. I will go for less time. I will bring someone with me. But I will 100% go back. I LOVE it here. I love the parks, the energy, the food, the architecture, the subways, the odd little neighbourhoods and more. I love it. So much and am so glad that I did this.
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