How to Keep Your Mind from Racing to the Negative

Life doesn't come with a manual, especially when you're navigating trauma. But one thing I've learned is the importance of embracing the "fight mentality." It's about facing challenges head-on, refusing to be a victim, and choosing to fight for your healing and happiness. This mindset was crucial when I decided to take control of my recovery and not let my past define me.

“What if they don’t like the new me?"

Ok... I know this is a statement that may make you mad, but stay with me.

Love is powerful, but it doesn’t work the same way for everyone. At its core, love tends to show up in three main ways: 1. Like Water There is always enough. You don’t run out. You can pour it into as many cups as you want or keep it all to yourself—but you control the flow. Some people get a full glass, some get a sip, and some don’t get any at all. But the source? Endless. 2. Limited Supply Think of love like pieces of paper. You only have a few. If you’ve given them all away and someone new comes into your life needing one, you can’t create more—you have to take from someone else. This kind of love feels scarce. It can create jealousy, competition, or the belief that if you love them, you can’t also love me. 3. Transactional This is love as a trade. A transaction. “I love you if…” or “If you don’t, I’ll take my love away.” Many of us grew up in this kind of love—where love had to be earned. Good grades? Love. Messed up? Love withdrawn. Hello to my fellow ‘80s and earlier babies—I see you.

Oh planning… let’s go.